Ok - tomorrow is my sister dinner with my birth sisters.
a bit of background.... I was adopted and raised as an only child and found my birth family almost 12 years ago - 2 full sisters (birth mom & dad married) plus 2 half sisters (birth mom and dad didn't work out)
We have a strange relationship - where they call me their sister but sometimes dont include me in super important moments.
My surgery is super important. I do not need anything negative. So the 2 full sisters 1 would be positive and secretly hate me and the other is a crap shoot. The 2 half sisters would be good about it and not really care cause they are young and the world revolves around them.
So my problem is I cant tell 1 with out telling all 4.
Do I tell or not??? They will obviously notice me losing weight and not eating tons of food at special occasions.
Im so torn... I was going to tell one of them but then stopped myself. I think I felt it was not fair to tell the 1 and not the others - too much of a secret for her to keep. She has a weight issue too so I really wanted to tell her but she's also the youngest so Its alot of info to take in.
I've got till 4:00pm tomorrow to decide...